Here Are 8 Ways To Feel Happy

Here Are 8 Ways To Feel Happy
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Here are 8 ways to feel happy:

1. Do one nice thing for yourself daily.

How about taking some time everyday to do nice things for yourself?

Either you get yourself a small treat by buying yourself a nice cup of espresso at your favorite coffee shop or taking a 30 minute to an hour nap before going out to do your adult stuff.

It would also be nice if you can schedule bigger self-care activities like massages or going on a vacation on a monthly basis.

If you start doing nice things for yourself and taking care of yourself, you’ll find the feeling of fullness and happiness and should be able to help others.

2. Prioritize your health to be happy.

Start taking supplements and vitamins! You body need those. Having the right fuel to push your body and increase your strength and stamina is one way of getting the feeling of happiness.

Sugar and other bad eating habits affect our energy and mood which hinders us from being happy.

Try to have a goal of exercising at least minimum of 5 days a week. As for the type of work out that’s really up to you. The rule is do what makes you happy.

Choose an activity that you will enjoy and not get bored with it!

If your not into hard core activities, then try doing yoga or pilates as long as the blood and oxygen is properly circulating inside your body that will activate the body’s natural healing powers that can give you the feeling of happiness.

3. Forgive yourself and be happy.

Forgiveness plays a big part in being happy! There are times that we don’t really think of forgiving ourselves. But little did we know we often criticize ourselves and it brings down our confidence level.

Forgiving yourself is quite challenging, as most of us have been getting angry at ourselves for some things that we did wrong as we age.

We often think of the things that we could have done and could have not done to make things better.

A lot of us get into trouble because we tried to be perfect and beat themselves up if they’re not. Loving yourself for who you are means accepting yourself.

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4. Start your day with a SMILE to be happy!

Start your morning with a prayer and a big SMILE!

Being grateful for a great sleep and waking up in the morning is something that you should be happy about.

Did you know that when you smile, the muscles in our face send a signal to our brains and create a better mood biologically.

When we smile, our body releases a powerful chemical reaction in our brain that can make you feel happier.

A smile can change everything, that one thing that you’ll realize quire fast especially when you are traveling. It’s the most international language that everyone knows.

It’s even contagious, not just because of how it looks from the outside but also because of the intention and the feeling that is behind that smile.

Pretty sure you’ll realize that if you smile a someone you don’t even know, or some who just pass by you, it will bring them good vibes, which make you want to pass that smile to the next person and son and so forth.

5. Be kind to someone and you’ll be happy

Why does being kind to someone is one way of being happy? Showing gratitude to others can be easy and quick, most inexpensive ways to keep anxiety at bay.

It helps calm the mood and takes the focus off yourself. Being kind to someone, produces a contagious smile.

You are most likely causing them to smile and if you see that smile for yourself, you know that you made someone happy and you made yourself happy.

With all the stress that we face each day be it sitting in traffic for many hours on your way to work in the morning, a small act of kindness can turn things around and reduces the stress level a bit.

The moment you focus on doing an act of kindness to someone, it helps you get a break from your own problems hence resulting to you having that feeling of happiness.

Helping someone in your own little way is a big factor on your daily life leading you to have that feeling of happiness.

6. Schedule something fun and guess what? You’ll be happy.

How about planning a day trip out of town? Or inviting friends over for a movie night or dinner at this new restaurant you saw on facebook?

Looking forward to a long road trip or traveling to your next dream destination. This is one thing that can hype you up and bring up your excitement.

Having something to look forward gives you a good feeling. And will also give you an “Atmosphere of growth” to your life, because the future seems bright.

Anticipation is the key, by having something to look forward to, no matter what the conflicts are, as long as it will bring happiness into your life well before the event actually takes place.

Sometimes, the happiness in anticipation is greater that the happiness that you will experience in that moment.

7. Get enough sleep and you’ll be happier

As an adult, research shows we need to have at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep for the body and mind to fully rest.

We all know that without enough sleep our body and mind cannot function without enough of it.

That’s easy to say, most of you may be thinking, who has the time to sleep when you got loads of work to do to make a living?

If you think that the hours of lost sleep to finish your work related projects. Then how about consider the effect it will bring to your daily happiness than getting one extra hour of sleep a night?

They don’t call it beauty rest for nothing as anyone who wakes up with a dark circles under their eyes can attest.

Our body and mind needs a lot of rest so it can repair and release the growth hormones that are needed by our body.

Many of these are fixing damaged tissues including the skin. If you don’t get enough sleep, you are risking the boosted levels of stress hormones, which can wreck your skin and age prematurely.

Even by just taking a 30 minute nap between the day can give you the feeling of happiness

8. Talk to a friend or Call someone.

Social contact is a main contributor to happiness. It doesn’t really have to be a phone call, it can be an email or even sending them a message and asking them how they are doing can make a big difference and can bring out the happiness in you.

This small gesture can show your friend that you really care about him/her and want to know what’s happening with his/her life at the moment.

Asking how they’re day is doing and what he/she has been up to, can give you an exchange of conversation that you both can benefit from and get that feeling of happiness.

Taking some time to show interest in your friend without wanting anything in return will both brighten up your day.


3 Steps to Working with Anger

By Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

In his book Taming the Tiger Within: Meditations for Transforming Difficult Emotions, acclaimed author and Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hanh writes:

Recognize and embrace your anger when it manifests itself. Care for it with tenderness rather than suppressing it.

In an earlier article I wrote about the difference between destructive and constructive anger and how Thich Nhat Hanh writes about taking care of our anger. There are three things you can do to help take care of your anger.

  • Acknowledgment – The first point of change happens with awareness. Often times we either are not aware of our anger because we are suppressing and repressing it or not aware of the warning signs before we just explode. Awareness of the warning signs that anger is present is important to begin to get in touch with. The most practical way to do this is by paying attention to our bodies. Think of a scenario that really makes your blood boil and let it stew in your mind for a bit. Then shift your attention to your body and notice what sensations are there. You may notice warmth, tightness in the chest, tension in certain muscles, teeth clenching, and pressure in the eyes. Get to know these physical feelings as they can be a great guide as to when anger is arising.

Along with knowing the warning signs, it’s important to acknowledge in our own minds when anger is here. We can even say; anger is here right now. This nonjudgmental acknowledgment is critical recognizing that there is discontent in us at the moment and it would be wise to do the next step.

  • Care of Anger – It is well known that when we are in a state of anger or in a state of repressing our anger, we often times say or do things that we regret later. It’s not that the anger is “bad”, it’s just that often times having a dialogue when really angry isn’t as effective as cooling down and then coming back and expressing what you are feeling. How do we take care of our anger in the moment? With the recognition that the anger is there, you may choose to step away for a bit and notice this discomfort or pain inside. With awareness of it, you may even bring your attention to your breath and say “breathing in, I am aware of this anger, breathing out I calm my body.” You may also choose to take a walk, while attempting to be “tender” and embracing your anger as if it was a little child, a mini-you, who needed love inside. After some time the anger will soften and transform a bit revealing what may be underneath it. This will take some practice.
  • Awareness of others – Often times when we get angry there is someone else involved. Our reaction often is one of retaliation to get back at the other person with little awareness that this actually increases our own suffering as the conflict escalates. We don’t want to hold back or pretend we aren’t angry, but we also don’t want to retaliate as this doesn’t help. In this step, it is important to really try and put yourself in the other person’s shoes to see why they possibly reacted the way they did. This can be very difficult or near impossible if it was a serious offense of abuse. So take this step with caution and at your own pace. You may also want to check out and earlier blog on refusing to forgive. Peace in yourself, can lead to peace in the relationship.

By no means is it easy to tame the tiger within, please have compassion for yourself during this process. If you have a longstanding issue of suppressing or all-too-quickly and dramatically expressing your anger, it may be good to seek support from a healthcare professional.

As always, please share your thoughts, stories, and questions. Your interactions here provide a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

What Really Drives Your Motivation?

What Really Drives Your Motivation?
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What really drives your motivation? It can be elusive for a lot of people. As much as we’d like to have that feeling on tap, it just seems to dry up every now and then.

Motivation can make a massive impact on your life. Without it, it’s way harder to accomplish your goals and make your dreams happen.

A study from a network of universities in Spain shows that the neurochemical dopamine plays a crucial role in motivation. Dopamine used to be only associated with positive emotions, but as it turns out, it also affects your desire to get things done.

What happens is that this hormone fires in the brain while anticipating a desired outcome. This, in turn, can motivate a person to make that outcome happen.

In another study, scientists found that rats were more likely to go through obstacles to get to some food if they had higher levels of dopamine.

This shows that the feeling of motivation is something that comes from inside us. However, there are also external factors to consider.

And if you can put these together, you’ll create a healthy cycle. With that, let’s a look at how you can inject more motivation into your life:

#1: Jumpstart Your Dopamine Production

Physical activity is one way you can directly influence your brain chemistry and set the stage for feeling motivated.

Exercise is a great way to trigger the release of feel-good hormones. Aside from dopamine, there’s also serotonin, adrenaline, and endorphins that can put you in a state of post-workout bliss.

Don’t underestimate the link between your overall health and mental well-being. These have a direct effect on your level of motivation, so make the time for cardio and other related activities.

But you don’t need to have an elaborate workout routine or splurge on fancy equipment and a gym membership. You can sweat it out on a budget by going on YouTube and making a playlist of basic exercises.

Talking walks is also incredibly beneficial, too. And best of all, you can spend as little as 15-30 minutes a day doing this.

As you keep up this routine, you’ll feel better about yourself and feel motivated to do more. Suddenly, you’ll find the time for longer workouts and start doing other exercises as well.

Try doing it with other activities like watching TV or listening to an inspiring podcast. Also, you can do it during your work breaks to stay energized throughout the day.

Starting with baby steps makes it less overwhelming to get into this habit. Ease yourself into it, and you’re more likely to build traction and stick to it.

#2: Get Inspired

Another way to light that fire inside you is by looking to other people who have the level of success you want. Study their process and the steps they took to get where they are today.

Chances are they have a book, video blog, podcast or some other medium where they teach other people to follow in their footsteps. Reading about their accomplishments and learning their story is an external source of motivation you can internalize.

Research from the American Psychological Association (APA) uncovered a phenomenon where you can create what they call “intrinsic rewards” by observing other people.

When you see someone enjoying what they do, that feeling is almost contagious. So in a way, these people can actually pass their motivation onto YOU.

#3: Get In The Driver’s Seat

Studies also show that the more you feel in control of a task or project, the more motivated you’ll be to see it through. On the contrary, feeling forced to do something drains your energy to get it done.

Most people don’t realize they act like their own boss and crack the whip on themselves. Not only is this approach demoralizing, but it’s also incredibly demotivating.

Instead, try this little exercise:

Imagine negotiating with yourself, like a worker would with his or her boss. Discuss the things you need to get done today or this week and figure out what you’d get out of it.

In this dialogue, start off by telling yourself, “Ok, so you need to come up with five business ideas today and choose the best one. Also, you need to do cardio for 15 minutes, either in the morning or afternoon.”

Then you’d say, “Ok, but if I do that, I get to watch an hour of Netflix or catch up on my book… whichever I feel like doing later.”

After you’ve gone back and forth and worked out the terms, you can shake on it and get to work.

By giving yourself options to choose from, you’ll feel more empowered – which, of course, boosts your motivation in the process.

#4: Get Real With Your Goals

Further research from the APA shows that you have a higher chance of getting work done (by up to 90 percent, in fact) by breaking down your big goals into smaller, specific tasks.

By quantifying your goals with a specific metric (e.g., do 30 pushups and 10 burpees in 30 minutes), it feels more concrete and doable. Once you have these mini-goals in place, you can start tackling them one by one.

Write your big goals, then make a list of related tasks under each one. Do this a day in advance (like the night before) so you can hit the ground running first thing in the morning.

Then as you chip away significant chunks from your overall goal, the more motivated you’ll feel.

Every time you accomplish one of these smaller, specific goals, you’ll be rewarded with a small dose of dopamine. This will give you the push you need to keep going until you’ve cleared all of your tasks.

#5: Visualize Your Future

While it’s crucial to get motivation from accomplishing your goals, it’s also helpful to give yourself a dopamine boost before getting started.

As such, you’ll find that it’s hugely beneficial to develop the habit of creating a vivid picture of your desired outcome. Spend about 5-10 minutes every day visualizing yourself enjoying your dream life as if it’s happening now.

Like we discussed earlier, rats are more motivated to overcome those obstacles just by anticipating the reward for doing it. In the same way, thinking about the results of your hard work will release neurochemicals that will get you pumped for the task ahead.

Think about what it would FEEL like to finally get your big goals done. Imagine the people in your life congratulating you and complimenting you on your efforts.

When you know exactly what’s waiting for you on the other side, you’ll suddenly lose all the excuses that were holding you back.

#6: Positivity In, Negativity Out

Your beliefs also have a great deal to do with being motivated. Perception is a dominant force, and it can dictate the very course of your life.

Aside from visualizing the outcome, giving yourself the right beliefs is also an effective way to design your reality.

Affirmations are an excellent way to do this. These are statements you can repeat to yourself so you can rewire your belief system.

A lot of people operate on destructive beliefs because of bad experiences from the past. As a result, they go around carrying labels like “loser,” “hopeless case” and “damaged.”

Going through life with this kind of baggage won’t just destroy your motivation…

… but undermine everything you do every step of the way.

That’s why you need to rewrite that story in your head by using powerful statements.

Here’s how to get started:

Think about the qualities you have that will help you accomplish your goals. Also, think about the things you’re grateful for.

Use these thoughts as the basis of your affirmations. These will remind you that you have what it takes to break past your limitations.

As with visualizing, pretend that it’s happening at the PRESENT moment – and not at some point in the future.

That way, you’ll feel empowered from knowing that you’re living that great truth here and NOW.

Here are some examples of affirmations you can use:

– Every day, I am getting stronger, smarter and healthier.
– I am a strong person who can deal with every obstacle and challenge that I encounter.
– My life is filled with infinite opportunities to succeed, and I make the most of them every day.
– I am surrounded by people who love and support me, and they want me to succeed.

Feel free to use affirmations or create your own. The more detailed, the better.

It’s more effective when you say these affirmations (either out loud or in your mind) right after doing your visualization exercises. You can do them right before going to bed or make it part of your morning ritual.

All of these habits have helped me plug the leaks in my “motivation tank.” If I’m feeling a bit jaded, fatigued or burnt out, I make sure I’m doing each of these steps enough so I don’t run on empty.

On top of staying motivated, however, there’s one more habit that got me out of my own funk.

You see, like Michael, there was a time where I couldn’t overcome that inertia I felt. I was successful and fulfilled on the outside, but people around me didn’t know I felt burned out and desperate.

I started to feel like an impostor… until I accidentally came across a life-changing secret.

By making a small but powerful change in my mindset, I suddenly found the power to become the most authentic version of myself.

And more importantly, I could attract every opportunity without working 80 hours a week. Just like that, all sorts of blessings flowed into my life effortlessly.

How to Set Your Goals With a Great Mindset

How to Set Your Goals With a Great Mindset
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How to Set Your Goals. Having a goal is a little like having a destination. It gives you something to aim for, it gives you something to target and it generally gives you a structure and a direction that might be lacking otherwise. So, if you think of a goal as a destination and life as a journey, it becomes apparent that without a goal of some sort, you are likely to be directionless.

How can get to where you want to be, if you don’t know where that is?

Thus, one of the most important aspects of creating a winning mindset is to identify the goals that you hope to achieve. But in order to do that, you also need to understand how to go about writing a useful goal. Because not all goals are made equal and actually, a ‘bad goal’ can be a very destructive thing.

In this guide, we’re going to take an in-depth look at precisely what makes a goal good or bad and precisely what you can do to increase your chances of reaching those goals in the minimal time and with the minimal challenge.

Wait! A Goal Can be Bad?

Yes, a goal can be a bad thing. And there are a number of reasons why. Firstly, a goal can be bad if it is kept vague and if it is used as a tool to help placate yourself. Let’s be honest, many of our ‘goals’ are not really goals at all but rather dreams. These are ‘pie in the sky’ ideas that we like but which we make no real moves toward accomplishing.

We are so often told that having goals and constantly visualizing them will help us to achieve whatever we want and to be enormously successful. But have you ever actually checked the science? Unfortunately, the research paints quite a different picture. Rather than helping us to get to where we want to be, it appears that goals that take such a vague form actually hinder our chances of success.

What’s the problem?

The problem is that we end up dreaming about what we want and visualizing it but don’t actually go after it!
In fact, it might be that having a goal to visualize is what prevents us from feeling the need to take action. In one surprising study, it was found that talking about a goal could actually make you less likely to accomplish it. Want to lose weight?

Keep it to yourself. Want to stop smoking? Don’t tell anyone.

The reason for this is simple: once you’ve told someone, you already feel ‘ownership’ of that goal. You already feel as though it is a part of who you are. This is a problem because if you now think of yourself as someone who is fit or someone who doesn’t smoke, then you’re likely to feel as though you don’t have to make any major change to your lifestyle. You’re already that thing, so why bother?

It may well be that visualizing a goal or a dream does the very same thing. When we picture ourselves rich, when we tell ourselves the narrative that one day this is going to be the case, suddenly we remove the incentive to take action. As far as our brains are concerned we’re already there! While it’s not a nice comparison to draw, this always makes me think of Auschwitz.

Work Doesn’t “Make Free”

There, the Nazis had a large sign that read ‘arbeit macht frei’. This translates to ‘work makes free’. In other words, the objective was to provide the prisoners in the camp with just enough hope to keep them working it was enough to prevent them from trying to take that freedom.

In your life, work doesn’t make free. Just like it didn’t back then. If you want to be free, you need to change your approach and you need to take action.

How to Take Action

Okay then, so how exactly does one go about taking action? The answer is to come up with a plan. This is very different from a goal because it tells you exactly what you need to do. Yes, that means that you do need a goal. You simply have to learn the difference between a goal and a plan. You have to recognize that a goal on its own isn’t enough. And in fact, ‘goal’ is really something of a misnomer here.

What you need more than a goal is a vision. A vision is something that inspires you, it is something that gives you the motivation and the drive. A vision is what makes you wake up in the morning. But it is also abstract. It is hard to quantify. And it is hard to know precisely how you should go about getting to the point you want to get to.
That’s where the plan comes in.

The plan is what bridges the gap between where you are right now and where you want to be. And the very best plans are small, they are measurable and they are directly within your control. The best plans are usually made up of lots of much smaller goals, each of which will represent a stepping stone toward where you eventually want to be.

Don’t worry if all this talk of goals, plans and visions is a little complicated right now. Over the rest of this guide, we’re going to demystify what all this means and we’re going to figure out precisely what you need to do to get to where you need to be.

Creating Your Vision

So, the first thing you need is the vision. This is what many of us once referred to as a goal. It is the ‘dream’ if you will. You might already have one. In that case great, you can skip straight to the next section! But there’s also a chance that you don’t know precisely what you think your vision should be.

This is something that often gets overlooked in self-help texts and other advice.  So often we are told to ‘go after our dreams’ but what if we don’t know what that dream is? Many of us would say that we don’t want to tie our dream to our job. We don’t want to work toward a career because we aren’t career focused. Other people might feel that they don’t want to limit themselves to just one dream.

What if you want to be a rock star and an actor? A programmer or an author? If you can’t decide quite what you want to do and if you don’t know what speaks to you on that important level, then you’ll struggle to come up with a plan to get there. We’re back to that directionless journey. Okay, so what you need to do in this case is to simply close your eyes for a moment and imagine yourself in your perfect life.

Where are you?

It’s five, ten or twenty years from now and everything has gone just the way you always wanted it too. So where are you? What is the picture in your mind? Are you with your family in the living room, laughing with not a care in the world? Are you standing on top of a mountain somewhere, having just travelled from somewhere exotic? Or maybe you’re in a high-rise office, looking out over the city below wearing an incredibly well-tailored suit.

This isn’t a specific goal in the conventional sense, but it suggests the ‘emotional’ content that is driving you forward. Maybe it’s success in the conventional sense of the word. Is it’s money? Maybe it’s family and free time. Perhaps it’s travel. Whatever the case, you can now look at how to accomplish those things and therefore work a bit closer to your perfect future.

If you’re still struggling, then there are a few more different psychological exercises you can use to get there. For instance, ask yourself what the best day you had recently was. When were you last overjoyed? Maybe it was when you bought a new computer, maybe it was when you had a whole day to just relax. Maybe it was when you were on holiday. Or maybe it was just a nice day out with friends.

Fools Gold

Think about the things you always wanted to be and the things you always dreamed of when you were younger. And likewise, think about your role models and heroes. What do they have in common with one another? What could you potentially learn from them? Answer all these questions and hopefully a picture wills tart to form. And a picture is all you need.

Just make sure to assess that picture thoroughly. Too often, we can end up chasing after fool’s gold: thinking that one thing will bring us happiness when in reality, it actually just makes us less happy. For instance, you might think that the key to happiness is to get a job as a high-flying executive, only to discover that the life is too high-paced and too stressful.

This is why one last thing worth doing is to speak to some people who are already where you’d like to be. What is life like for them? How do they feel about it? Oh and one last thing: you might of course have more than one goal. Maybe you want to lose weight, quit smoking and also become America’s next top model.

In this case all the goals are related. Or maybe you want to find love and also become the top CEO of your organization. Either way, you can of course have more than one goal and this is probably normal. But what you should do in this case is to place your main focus on at least one of those goals at a time. Sure, you can have multiple goals but try to make one of them the ‘primary’ goal at any given time.

Social Anxiety, PTSD, and Phobias

Social Anxiety, PTSD, and Phobias

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Social anxiety, PTSD, and phobias are all anxiety disorders. Millions of people around the world are diagnosed with an anxiety disorder during their lifetimes, and so many are looking for answers as to what has caused this medical condition. Which can be quite serious. The title here may be misleading, because there really is no one cause of these disorders. You may have an anxiety disorder for any number of reasons, or a combination of reasons.

Here are a few things to look at to try to pin point its cause.

Are Disorders Genetic?

Many people want to know if anxiety disorders are genetic and can they be passed on to future generations. Studies show that this may be the case. If a parent has an anxiety disorder, there is a chance that you may get this disorder as well. However, family factors may play a role in this as well. When you’re raised in a household with someone who has an anxiety disorder, you are essentially taught these behaviors as well. Phobias are especially common to be passed to other family members. Insure relationships with parents may also cause anxiety disorders later in life. This may be partially due to genetics, but also has something to do with your childhood environment as well.

Other environmental experiences outside of your childhood living conditions play into the development for many disorders as well. If you have a traumatizing event as a child, or even as an adult, that could stay with you. Thus causing post-traumatic stress disorder, or could affect your thinking, causing other types of anxiety disorders. Social pressures may play a role in this as well. READ  Contrarian Approach for PTSD

Health Factors

An anxiety disorder may also be the result of health factors not related to genetics. Phobias and other anxiety disorders sometimes develop due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. This is especially true with the chemical serotonin, which also affects depression in some people. Evolution comes into play, because you automatically have a fight-or-flight system built into our brains. The foods we eat, exercise, and sleep we get every night all play roles into how our brain functions.

Lastly, anxiety disorders may develop due to stress.

Therefore when you are stressed, you may find that you slowly start to wear out. While our bodies are built to handle certain amounts of stress, over time, this simply breaks down. And we give in to anxiety, which can develop into an anxiety disorder. No matter what the reason, however, it is simply important that you ask for help dealing with your condition.

Stop Worrying, Start Living In The Here and Now?

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Stop worrying, start living in the here and now? It means that you are not thinking about your past and not worrying about the future. If you are living in the present, you are living in the life of reality. Your past and future are only illusions.

To live in the present means that you are ready to face the world. Since you are not depending on your past, you will always be contented with your present life.

If you are still sealed with your past, here are the best things you can do to live in the present:

Being Present

  • Be Conscious to Your Surroundings and Stop Beating Yourself Up- If you are aware of your surroundings, you don’t have to think for your past life. It means that your attention will be in your present situation. You also need to smile and congratulate yourself for everything you have done.
  • Remove Unwanted Possessions – If you don’t want to live in the past, you have to remove all the things to forget them. Then, start living in the present through focusing on the things you need to do.
  • Forgive Past Hurts – If you are still attached with your past situations, it is hard for you to face the reality and your present situation. So, make sure that you choose to forgive and move on. Though the harm is there, you have to make actions to ensure that it will never affect your present moods and activities.
  • Dream for Your Future while Working Hard Today – There is nothing wrong if you are dream big. What matters most is what you are doing at present to fulfill your dreams. So, start setting goals and plan for your future.
  • Stop Worrying – Unlike others, you will never appreciate the beauty of life if you keep on worrying too much. Take note that tomorrow is another day. Whether you worry about it or not, things will happen.

Living in the present is not as easy as you think. This is often observed if cannot easily forget the things that happened in the past. The past teaches everything you need to know. With your past, you learned from your mistakes and make your life even more effective than before. Your future, on the other hand, is the result of your present actions. Anything else is just worrying.

Planning for the future means taking on board the things that you want to happen. Why do you need to live in the present? Living in the present means that you are aware of your present situation, but with commitment to the future and an appreciation of your past. Through this, it is easy for you to manage your life. You can plan a strategy to create a positive way to get what you really want.

If you are facing a hardship in life, it is easy for you to solve it. In case you have a huge company, you can also decide which skills need to be implemented and how to handle your business. Living in the present also allows you to appreciate the things and people around you (not worrying). If you are focusing on your past or future alone, expect that you will never enjoy your life. You will also neglect the things that you need to do.

Treatments for Depression

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Depression is a mental disorder which affects about 350 million people worldwide. Its symptoms include, but are not limited to; Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, loss of interest in daily activities, appetite or weight changes, insomnia or oversleeping, anger or irritability, loss of energy, self-loathing, reckless behavior, concentration problems, unexplained aches and pains and also suicidal thoughts..
Current popular treatments for depression include antidepressant medications and talk therapy such as counselling or psychotherapy. Unfortunately, these treatments have many drawbacks. AD medication is associated with a high risk of side effects and a low success rate, while therapy sessions are notoriously expensive, and often unaffordable or unobtainable for most people.

Medical Treatments

Medication for depression comes in the form of antidepressants. There are typically 4 classes of AD medication, SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), atypical antidepressants, tricyclics antidepressants and MAOIs (monoamine oxidase inhibitors).

The SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) are the most commonly prescribed class of antidepressants. They act on a chemical in the brain called serotonin. The SSRIs include drugs such as Prozac, Zoloft, and Paxil. SSRIs are preferred over older classes of antidepressants because their adverse effects are less severe, however, like all antidepressants, SSRIs can cause an increase in suicidal thoughts and behaviors. They also carry a risk for increased hostility, agitation, and anxiety. In adults 65 and older, SSRIs increase the risk for falls, fractures, and bone loss. SSRIs can also cause severe withdrawal symptoms if you stop taking them abruptly.

Atypical antidepressants are a variety of newer atypical antidepressants which target other neurotransmitters either alone or in addition to serotonin. For example, Wellbutrin blocks the reabsorption of the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine, while trazodone affects both norepinephrine and serotonin. Again, as with all antidepressant medication, there are many possible side effects.

Tricyclics are among the oldest antidepressants. They work by inhibiting the brain’s reuptake or serotonin and norepinephrine. They also partially inhibit the reabsorption of dopamine. Because tricyclics have such a broad mechanism of action, they tend to cause more side effects than the other classes of antidepressants. For this reason, the SSRIs and the atypical antidepressants are usually prescribed first. Again, side effects are usual and severe withdrawal symptoms are often the case if you stop taking them abruptly.

MAOIs (monoamine oxidase inhibitors) are the oldest class of antidepressants. MAOIs have severe interactions with certain foods, drinks, and medications. Combining MAO inhibitors with foods or drinks containing tyramine can result in dangerously high blood pressure, which can lead to a stroke or heart attack. Because of this danger, MAOIs are not typically chosen as a first-line depression treatment.

As is usually the case with medication, antidepressants cannot cure depression. At best, they will lessen the symptoms of depression. However, success rates are notoriously low, not much better than a placebo in most cases, while the risk of side effects is extremely high. This is the reason many people in the medical industry refer to antidepressants as “sugar pills with side effects”.

A Better, Safer Option 

Although very few doctors or medical professionals will know or tell you about it (there is too much money involved in conventional treatment methods), you can actually cure yourself of depression using only CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) techniques combined with some dietary and lifestyle changes. Indeed in the past, a number of doctors and scientists had reported such successes in medical journals, but this research is now kept hidden by the pharmaceutical industry.

For the first time ever, this research has been dug up and used to compile a comprehensive step-by-step guide on exactly what you need to do to naturally and safely cure your depression  in just a few weeks – without any medication or expensive therapy sessions. For more information, visit James Gordon’s “Destroy Depression System™ where he explains exactly why and how this system works.

Creativity: Thinking and Its Fundamentals

Creativity: Thinking and Its Fundamentals
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What exactly is creativity? Indeed, there are a number of ways you can define the word “creativity”. However, the most modest way to define this mysterious element that is shared by all people is the fact that creativity is the ability of the person’s mind to acquire facts, materials, and/or ideas and distinguish them in a distinctive manner or way. It is a unique point of view, a fresh idea and/or a new way of looking at a certain problem.

Not Creative?

Many people will tell you that they are not creative, or you may even think that you are not. But then, you have to realize that everyone is truly creative. Every person has his/her own style of creativity. A few are good at producing new ideas and playing around with them, making those ideas more functional, while others are simply fine when it comes to identifying unusually new solutions and ways of doing things.

Look Around

Take a glance at your surroundings, at the house or apartment you are living in, at the fixtures and furniture in this space. Look at the clothes that you wear. Each manufactured product you view was, at one time or another, an idea or thought in a person’s mind.

Every time you make a decision about something it is because your mind perceives the situation a certain way. Each time you make a decision on what to eat and what to wear How to organize something, you are being creative. When people envision a beautifully colored flower and then mentally change a few of its characteristics (such as its shape, texture, petal shape and more), no one will have the same image after five minutes.

This is mainly due to the fact that everyone will produce a unique image. It only means that everyone is creative.
Creative thinking is a natural way of thinking and not a different way of thinking. You have been taught about thinking logically, reproductively and even linearly. Along with this, you might have been informed that creativity in itself should be learned and taught in the same manner as other subjects in academics.

It should not be the case. Conceptual blending is in the center of imagination. It is a cognitive process, which functions under the consciousness level. This involves the association of 2 cognitive ideas to produce new meanings while explaining the creativity and abstract thoughts – an underlying mental process that is distinctive to humans.

Constantly occurring without your awareness, these blends are vital for the conception of emergent ideas, global insight, and meanings. With these ideas in mind, you should have a better understanding of the basics of creative thinking.

Getting Over Stress The Fun Way


Are you looking for a fun way to reduce stress in your life? Try playing games!

Stress relief games are specially designed to provide that pleasurable escape which helps deal with stress. Playing games for the relief of stress does not have much research supporting it, but many people have seen that games help to reduce stress. It is also known that “brain teasers” and problem-solving games can improve memory and brain function in older people, even those with dementia.

There are many types of stress relief games, depending upon the taste and age of the person. They range from small games, activities, and exercises to challenging and “mind bending” games. Games are very similar in their approach to meditation or any other relaxation or stress relief method.

Stress relief games are divided into two categories – outdoors games and indoors games.

Outdoors games include tennis, football and many other physically demanding games. As an adult, physical games can offer the health and stress management benefits of exercise, and the group involvement can ensure that you’ll keep at it.

Indoors games can be Chess, Rubik’s Cube, darts, crossword puzzles, computer games, mobile phone games and many others. Mental stimulation distracts your thoughts from the stressful situations that you are dealing with, while at the same time it trains your brain to sharpen your problem solving skills.

The most widely popular indoors games are computer games, which can be online stress relief games (that you play in a web browser) and stress relief desktop games (that you download from the internet and play offline).

Puzzle-based games like Tetris (a long-time favorite of mine) or Bejeweled are good choices for a quick stress break. Other favorite choices are crossword puzzles, logic games and Sudoku.

But what about people who play stress relief games at work?

Studies show that happier workers also do better work (and more of it), so playing stress relief games would seem like the ultimate stress relief tool in your arsenal.

For everyone from deskbound office workers to managers in meetings, stress relief games prove to be a work productivity enhancer, especially if the stress is being caused by a difficult project. Winning a few games helps restore your confidence and puts you in a better frame of mind to tackle that project.

The best way to relieve stress is to play those stress relief games which are easy to win. These games can boost your self-esteem and improve your self-confidence. They make you feel successful and provide the feeling of relaxation – similar to squeezing stress relief balls.

Stress relief desktop games can take your troubles off your mind and keep your stress at bay for an hour or two a day! However, you have to be aware that some games are quite addictive, and you should avoid those if you don’t have too much free time.

You will find tons of free online games, which you can play right in your browser. All online games are FREE and you can play them online, so you never need to install any program on your personal computer at home or at work.

Just five to ten minutes playing games can be enough to reboot your mind and leave you calm, refreshed, and ready to get back to the task at hand.

What is Oneness of a Person?

What is Oneness of a Person
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Oneness Defined

Beyond the other thoughts about yourself, beyond those ideas or concepts that shape your personality, there exist who you really are. It is defined as oneness of a person. The timeless and formless reality is in the soul of every creature or every human being. But, how will you know if it is really oneness? When your mind is still, you will feel a certain energy that moves through you. This realization is called the source energy’s awareness. But, not all people are aware of it.

Generally speaking, the reason why some people are not aware of it is because they tend to concentrate solely on the mind. Due to this, this blocks the awareness of person on the existence of their being. Thus, when you start to focus only on your thoughts, you reduce your ability to function properly. If you want to see your whole being and your path, you need awareness that will be able to transcend you the delimitations of your repetitive thinking.

Relative Self

The thoughts that you often identify makes the relative self, which only comes to understand and know itself through judgment and comparison with some things and people. This is also used as the basis of one’s duality. Everyone is differentiated through their talents, specific strengths and weaknesses, and unique physical characteristics. However, when you identify relative existence, you will only get conflicts in the long run.

Because of the different things that one’s mind is focusing, many people tend to lose sight of the timeless and formless reality, which holds the life altogether. If you have successfully filtered awareness solely with the concepts and abstractions of your mind, you will be able to set a connection with your life. You have to take note that life is life. It is not a form of abstraction. Therefore, the sense of oneness is the same as the nature.

The Restless Mind

The restless mind together with the constant analysis, judgment, and comparison, keeps your focus on the relative world. That is the human suffering’s core because when isolating yourself, you seek for salvation through judging yourself as the superior to another person.

There are also cases that some people mask their inferiority, which is the result of self-damaging and addictive behavior. But, this does not mean that you won’t undergo the process of transformation because in order for you to achieve enlightenment, you need self-forgiveness.

How to Achieve Oneness?

There are various things that you can do to achieve oneness. Some of these things include meditation, manifestation, prayer, living with peace and love, maintaining a healthy body, mind, and soul. All these things are important and they are required especially for those who want to achieve results. Through these things, you will be able to understand more about oneness and you can become a Christ Conscious person in no time.

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