Does Your Shadow Love You?

Does your shadow love you?

The psychologist, Carl Jung, described hidden part of our psyche as
“the shadow”. It’s the part that sometimes frightens us with the things
we don’t know, or don’t want to know about ourselves.

It is essencially our unconscious mind telling us what it wants.
Sometimes it comes in dreams, other times and a welling up of emotion.

I Just had some thoughts about this so-called “dark” side and how it
applies to learning mind control.

Some people are so oppressed that showing any interest in this shadow
side creates fear if for no better reason than it’s what you were told
not to do.

We all are likely to remember the voice of Darth Vader saying “Come to
the Dark Side, Luke!”

That shadow side exists and many, many, MANY people will tell you to
destroy it. To destroy your passions, wants, needs and desires. THey
will plead with us to connect with something higher that we can only
dream and guess about.

They offer us something greater without really being clear on what it

Their hope is that if we give up everything that makes us animals we
will become more Human, or perhaps we might even become Divine.

We can dream.

But do we dream at the cost of denying what we want right here and now?

In a society (family/relationship) that endeavors to control and
oppress in one way or another sometimes the “shadow” side of us is the
most healthy and doing the forbidden, i.e., loving your shadow is the
best thing that you can do for yourself.

They present it like an either/or proposition. Should it be?

By embracing the fact that we are animals (prove to me you don’t have a
genetic make up and I’ll believe otherwise) and still reaching upwards
perhaps we can come to a middle and sensible ground.

See the game of life and politics, i.e. mind control, as part of the
Big Picture and one can walk Wide Awake with feet firmly planted on the
ground and still reaching upwards.

It’s the best of both worlds.

Why would you want less?

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your favor.


How Can I Solve My Problem? The answer is “information” … … and the information is here!

How To Make Yourself Miserable

How to Make Yourself Miserable

How to make decisions that
make you feel miserable.

Being miserable is quite simple:

* Ask a series of miserable questions of yourself like

“What could go wrong about today?”

“What do I have to feel guilty about?”

“Why do bad things always happen to me?”

“Why am I feeling so terrible?”

* Make vague and unreasonable expectations and goals.

By making a goal or expectation unreasonable you’ll make it impossible
to achieve. By making them vague you’ll never know exactly if you
achieve them and you’ll always be able to say “No, that’s not what I

* Think the worst first.

For any event that occurs you have a million ways of thinking about it.
Go for the worst possible interpretation. For example, if you walk into
a store and teenagers are outside laughing and smoking cigarettes they
are probably laughing at you.

* Cling to past hurts.

Progress can be easily inhibited when you use past hurt of slow you
down. These can take the form of lingering on why your life has been so
terrible or even by saying “We’ve never done it that way
before. Why start now?”

Why you might want to stop feeling miserable.

* Without a doubt misery is the number one cause of suicide. If you
want to live you want to get rid of your misery.

* You will have more power (much, much more) and control over your life
if you stop all the misery producing processes and take responsibility
for your life.

How to stop making miserable decisions.

* Set reasonable goals using the S.M.A.R.T. goals process. If you don’t
know what this is do a google search.

* Know when your emotions are trying to influence away from your goals
and work to keep your focus.

* Agree to take responsibility for your life and especially for your
emotions. This is very hard work but very rewarding.

What you will have to give up when you stop making miserable decisions.

* You will have to give up on the belief that your suffering makes you
unique. The fact is suffering is ordinary and boring to most people.
We’ve all experienced it and there is little you can say about your
suffering that will make us think of you for very long. What is
exceptional and unique is someone who makes no excuses for their life
and decides to excel and feel joy AS A CHOICE.

* You will have to give up blame. This means blaming anyone or
anything. It means even giving up blaming yourself.

* You will have to give up on fear and timidity. Only boldness and
audacity can overcome a longstanding habit of misery.

Final note.

While all of this may seem vary callus and cold it’s important to point
out that this is not an essay by which you should judge other people
but only yourself. Bad things do happen to good people and it’s a good
idea to help them when you can. On the other hand, if you find someone
who is persistantly and habitually miserable it’s generally a good idea
to keep your distance from them lest they infect you with their misery
and, beleive me, they can do that more easily than you think.

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How Can I Solve My Problem? The answer is “information” … … and the information is here!

Anger Management Techniques?

What are some Anger Management Techniques?

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Having trouble controlling anger is a major issue in many individuals lives. Addressing this issue can be difficult if the person is unwilling to admit to their problem and seek help. It is imperative that people be supportive and encouraging to those with anger issues. At times it may seem impossible since these people can be hurtful and even violent. Helping them to realize they need help would be the initial step to controlling their anger.

Once an individual is willing to work on their anger problem and turn to anger management, there are anger management techniques which will be taught to help them. There are many techniques which are beneficial regarding anger management. It might be necessary for the individual to try them all in order to find anger management techniques that work best for them.

One technique recommended for anger management is relaxation. Angry feelings and emotions can be calmed by relaxing exercises such as deep breathing, relaxing imagery and slow non strenuous exercise similar to yoga. When a person becomes irritated and headed for a fit of anger, it is suggested they breathe deeply. This technique recommends that the person breathe from their diaphragm in order to relax. Using relaxing imagery may work for some people. Allowing their mind and thoughts to go to a happy place, a relaxing experience may help to calm them down. This imagery may be of a past experience or the individual could use their imagination. The yoga-like exercises used as an anger management technique are meant to relax the muscles which in turn will help the individual feel much calmer.

Problem solving is used as an anger management technique. It is important for an individual to discover the reason for their anger. Anger is a natural response to certain situations and at times it is an acceptable reaction but there are other incidents when the anger is not appropriate. There is a reason for the anger and to every problem there is said to be a solution. When a situation arises, the individual is taught not to focus on the solution but rather the problem. Finding ways to handle the problem and confront it is the main objective in this anger management technique. It may take awhile to conform to this plan. It is important to stick to it, eventually the answers will come.

People with anger issues are taught through anger management techniques to practice better communication skills. Often a fit of anger arises because an individual misunderstood a conversation. Before giving it any thought, they become enraged and filled with anger. Anger management teaches the individual to slow down their thinking, think before they speak or react. The easily angered person needs to listen to the underlying message and try not to jump to conclusions. When feeling on the defensive side, the individual should learn not to fight back. Listening rationally to what the other person has to say might make a huge difference in a reaction.

These are just a few anger management techniques. There are many others which may be helpful to an individual requiring help. There are many books, movies and website on the Internet which can provide information regarding anger management techniques.
Here are just a few:
Anger Management For The Twenty First Century Ebook

Anger Management – Regaining Control Of

Stop The Insanity – Control Your Anger Today

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