make you feel miserable.
Being miserable is quite simple:
* Ask a series of miserable questions of yourself like
“What could go wrong about today?”
“What do I have to feel guilty about?”
“Why do bad things always happen to me?”
“Why am I feeling so terrible?”
* Make vague and unreasonable expectations and goals.
By making a goal or expectation unreasonable you’ll make it impossible
to achieve. By making them vague you’ll never know exactly if you
achieve them and you’ll always be able to say “No, that’s not what I
* Think the worst first.
For any event that occurs you have a million ways of thinking about it.
Go for the worst possible interpretation. For example, if you walk into
a store and teenagers are outside laughing and smoking cigarettes they
are probably laughing at you.
* Cling to past hurts.
Progress can be easily inhibited when you use past hurt of slow you
down. These can take the form of lingering on why your life has been so
terrible or even by saying “We’ve never done it that way
before. Why start now?”
Why you might want to stop feeling miserable.
* Without a doubt misery is the number one cause of suicide. If you
want to live you want to get rid of your misery.
* You will have more power (much, much more) and control over your life
if you stop all the misery producing processes and take responsibility
for your life.
How to stop making miserable decisions.
* Set reasonable goals using the S.M.A.R.T. goals process. If you don’t
know what this is do a google search.
* Know when your emotions are trying to influence away from your goals
and work to keep your focus.
* Agree to take responsibility for your life and especially for your
emotions. This is very hard work but very rewarding.
What you will have to give up when you stop making miserable decisions.
* You will have to give up on the belief that your suffering makes you
unique. The fact is suffering is ordinary and boring to most people.
We’ve all experienced it and there is little you can say about your
suffering that will make us think of you for very long. What is
exceptional and unique is someone who makes no excuses for their life
and decides to excel and feel joy AS A CHOICE.
* You will have to give up blame. This means blaming anyone or
anything. It means even giving up blaming yourself.
* You will have to give up on fear and timidity. Only boldness and
audacity can overcome a longstanding habit of misery.
While all of this may seem vary callus and cold it’s important to point
out that this is not an essay by which you should judge other people
but only yourself. Bad things do happen to good people and it’s a good
idea to help them when you can. On the other hand, if you find someone
who is persistantly and habitually miserable it’s generally a good idea
to keep your distance from them lest they infect you with their misery
and, beleive me, they can do that more easily than you think.
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